HIMYM and Adultery, oh fun!
Sep. 2nd, 2010 09:51 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
nomoreuturnsWatching How I Met Your Mother on Arena. It's the episode Nothing Good Happens After 2am, the one where Ted shows his true, dickish colours as a lying, cheating bastard and attempts to cheat on Victoria with Robin.
I'm just so pissed off at the rationale Ted tried to use in his argument with subconscious!Victoria: "You should have called!" It's the same rationale everybody seems to use when they cheat: "You should have done this, if you'd just done that, then maybe I wouldn't cheat." Hey, novel idea: maybe if you'd kept it in your fuckin' pants, you wouldn't cheat!
I'm just...gah! I guess I just don't understand the mindset or mechanics of cheating...and having never had a boyfriend or a girlfriend, and therefore not having experienced the relationship dynamic, I can't speak as to how insane the dynamics of a relationship can be. But if you're in a relationship with Person A that isn't working for you, and you meet Person B and you two get along like a house on fire, surely it would be easier - if not in the short run then definitely in the long run - to just break it off with Person A and get together with Person B?
I know it's got to be more difficult than that...it took a friend of mine three months and five different attempts to break it off with her ex-boyfriend. She didn't love him anymore, didn't even like him by the end, but she found it so hard to break it off. Even though she knew all his flaws, even though he was dragging her down, even though he was a dead-end no-hoper drunk-off-his-ass douchebag, it still took her that long to ditch him. So I get that it has to be way, way harder than it looks. But. The damage done in a break up has got to be less than the damage done by discovering your partner is cheating on you, and then breaking up. So why not go with less-damaging option A?
*confused and disillusioned*
* not about the episode, per se; the episode contains the impetus.
Next post will be my Inception thinky-post, followed hopefully by my Sherlock thinky-post. Still trying to get all my thoughts sorted for each subject...may need to see Inception again. >____>
I'm just so pissed off at the rationale Ted tried to use in his argument with subconscious!Victoria: "You should have called!" It's the same rationale everybody seems to use when they cheat: "You should have done this, if you'd just done that, then maybe I wouldn't cheat." Hey, novel idea: maybe if you'd kept it in your fuckin' pants, you wouldn't cheat!
I'm just...gah! I guess I just don't understand the mindset or mechanics of cheating...and having never had a boyfriend or a girlfriend, and therefore not having experienced the relationship dynamic, I can't speak as to how insane the dynamics of a relationship can be. But if you're in a relationship with Person A that isn't working for you, and you meet Person B and you two get along like a house on fire, surely it would be easier - if not in the short run then definitely in the long run - to just break it off with Person A and get together with Person B?
I know it's got to be more difficult than that...it took a friend of mine three months and five different attempts to break it off with her ex-boyfriend. She didn't love him anymore, didn't even like him by the end, but she found it so hard to break it off. Even though she knew all his flaws, even though he was dragging her down, even though he was a dead-end no-hoper drunk-off-his-ass douchebag, it still took her that long to ditch him. So I get that it has to be way, way harder than it looks. But. The damage done in a break up has got to be less than the damage done by discovering your partner is cheating on you, and then breaking up. So why not go with less-damaging option A?
*confused and disillusioned*
* not about the episode, per se; the episode contains the impetus.
Next post will be my Inception thinky-post, followed hopefully by my Sherlock thinky-post. Still trying to get all my thoughts sorted for each subject...may need to see Inception again. >____>
